We've had some inappropriate touching in house recently. In most homes it would be a harmless thing between siblings. A way to aggravate each other. Funny even.
But in a home with a sexual abuse history its a red flag. Its a concern. It requires closer supervision.
Jelly Bean has been touching Gabby's bottom when Gabby is standing near her or going up the stairs. Last week when we tried to discuss it with the therapists she turned on the rage and denied knowing what we were talking about. She took a time out, calmed down and we went over the rules of keeping your hands to yourself, asking before you touch people (even if a good touch) and treating people how you want to be treated.
It happened again today at day care. So tonight when we called her downstairs she asked, "Am I in trouble?"
"Do you do something that you would be in trouble for?"
Pause
Mom and Dad patiently waiting.
Pause
Mom and Dad patiently waiting.
"Touching Gabby again?"
Again.
There it was. She admitted that it happened before.
The fact that it was sop public makes us believe that this is really to annoy her sister rather than perpetrate but we have to be watchful.
But in a home with a sexual abuse history its a red flag. Its a concern. It requires closer supervision.
Jelly Bean has been touching Gabby's bottom when Gabby is standing near her or going up the stairs. Last week when we tried to discuss it with the therapists she turned on the rage and denied knowing what we were talking about. She took a time out, calmed down and we went over the rules of keeping your hands to yourself, asking before you touch people (even if a good touch) and treating people how you want to be treated.
It happened again today at day care. So tonight when we called her downstairs she asked, "Am I in trouble?"
"Do you do something that you would be in trouble for?"
Pause
Mom and Dad patiently waiting.
Pause
Mom and Dad patiently waiting.
"Touching Gabby again?"
Again.
There it was. She admitted that it happened before.
The fact that it was sop public makes us believe that this is really to annoy her sister rather than perpetrate but we have to be watchful.
sexual abuse changes everything ... the way you plan, the way you supervise, the way you perceive things, the way you listen, the way you ... sad but so true.
ReplyDeleteI get it. (unfortunately)