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I love to read. My favorite color is purple. I have had a bucket list since I was in the 7th grade (except then it was called Things I want to do before I die) it includes learning to play the piano, being in the Macy's day parade and have a family. Careers I've aspired to have: Pediatrician, Lawyer, Journalist, Mary Kay Director. I am actually a contract paralegal and I love it. Italy is my dream vacation. I regret that I do not have more time or energy to scrapbook or quilt. I collect Frog Prince figurines.
Updated 12/4/11
1. Where were you 3 hours ago?
Watching TLC with my husband and kids
2. Who are you in love with?
My Husband
3. Have you ever eaten a crayon?
No
4. Is there anything pink within 10 feet of you?
Yes - confiscated toys
5. When is the last time you went to the mall?
Black Friday
6. Are you wearing socks right now?
Nope
7. Do you have a car worth over $2,000?
Yes
8. When was the last time you drove out of town?
In November
9. Have you been to the movies in the last 5 days?
Nope
10. Are you hot?
Freezing
11. What was the last thing you had to drink?
Diet Coke
12. What are you wearing right now?
PJs
13. Do you wash your car or let the car wash do it?
rain
14. Last food that you ate?
Chilli
15. Where were you last week at this time?
sleeping
16. Have you bought any clothing items in the last week?
Christmas gifts for the kids
17. When is the last time you ran?
HA!
18. What's the last sporting event you watched?A
     A Blackhawks game
19. What is your favorite animal?
People answering for me would say frogs but thats not quite true. I don't really have one.
20. Your dream vacation?
Tour through Italy
21. Last person's house you were in?
My Mom's
22. Worst injury you've ever had?
we'll go with the last one - Sting Ray sting - I'm allergic
23. Have you been in love?
yes
24. Do you miss anyone right now?
My Grandmother
25. Last play you saw?
have no idea
26. What is your secret weapon to lure in the opposite sex?
back rubs!
27. What are your plans for tonight?
sleep
28. Who is the last person you sent a MySpace message or comment?
I use facebook
29. Next trip you are going to take?
Maybe Disney
30. Ever go to camp?
As an adult and as a Boy Scout. Philmont Alumn
31. Were you an honor roll student in school?
Yes
32. What do you want to know about the future?
If I'll be able to continue to be these kids' mother
33. Are you wearing any perfume or cologne?
No
34. Are you due sometime this year for a doctor's visit?
This is my life.
35. Where is your best friend?
Florida
36. How is your best friend?
Good I hope
37. Do you have a tan?
Nope
38. What are you listening to right now?
The TV
39. Do you collect anything?
Diamonds! Frog Prince Figures, Bells
40. Who is the biggest gossiper you know?
I love gossip but I try not to do the gossiping
41. Last time you got stopped by a cop or pulled over?
2007
42. Have you ever drank your soda from a straw?
yes
43. What does your last text message say?
Great
44. Do you like hot sauce?
sometimes
45. Last time you took a shower?
this afternoon
46. Do you need to do laundry?
ALWAYS
47. What is your heritage?
1/4 Italian, 1/4 German the rest Irish, Scottish, English, Welsh, Puerto Rican by marriage
48. Are you someone's best friend?
I hope so
49. Are you rich?
With experience and love
50. What were you doing at 12AM last night?
   Going to bed 

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