Back to Reality

So it looks like our vacation from visits is over. The hearing to reinstate visitation was last week and of course visitation was granted. Thankfully they judge (and the caseworker) took the advice of the kids' therapists and will require that visitation happen only in the community or at the DCFS office and with a supervisor more equipped. The other suggestion was to have at least 1 family therapy session prior to and split the kids up at visits.

So the part of me that already hates the schedule we have is really irritated by the dual visits. I have to be reminded that not being able to control all 4 children together for 5 hours and having visits moved to only 2 kids and in public doesn't look good. Especially at almost 2 years in. And that the kids will be more safe this way. And hey on the bright side transportation will be easier as Mom moved to our town. (Please read this as sarcasm.)

And now a word about attornies. Infuriating. Mom's attorney claims Mom was using a bear hold she learned in a parenting class during the incident. She stated that since Gabby didn't want to go to visits it was convenient that she is the only one who witnesses anything. And after all Foster Mom herself has had to restrain Jelly Bean at times. (So this is where the adrenaline completely took over and burned up all of the anti-anxiety pill I took.)

Excuse me? 1) of course your client denies any responsibility and blamed the kid. That's her MO. That's why they've been living with me. Shirk the responsibility and blame someone else even if it is your kid. 2) Gabby would have no way of knowing that visits were going to stop for 6 weeks. 3) Gabby doesn't lie. She may omit but her details were clear, reasonable and repeated the exact same way several times. 4) There is a big difference between a foster parent the child trusts restraining a child banging her head against furniture and walls to prevent her from harming herself and an abuser picking the child she abused up out of be in anger to force her in time out.