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Thursday, January 10, 2013

Feeling Slightly Steadier

The meeting with the caseworker and her new supervisor wasn't that productive although I did vent quite a bit. Hopefully, she'll get it and I don't have to keep beating the dead horse. She tried to fall on the sword and say that she was slowing this down due to the departmental changes.  Sorry sweetie. Not going to work. This has been going on for 2 years.

We did get out of them the following:
  • The first overnight will happen. Then they will have family therapy and then have another overnight visit the next weekend.
  • Typically from the 1st overnight visit they look at moving them home in 60-90 days.
  • We are to receive a plan for how often the caseworker shall be touching base.
  • They are not inclined to try to find another foster home so if we can't finish teh transition they would likely move the kids home sooner provided the judge allowed.
She also tried to tell us that this is normal for fosterparents to feel frustrated because its painful and you are grieving.  Which I get but when you have no idea what is supposed to happen after next week and the kids are totally out of whack it doesn't really help to hear that. "Oftern foster parents find its too hard and so they ask us to speed up the process". You live week by week lady with 4 bickering screaming children and tell me what you'd be asking other people to do.

Grrr.

Then the CASA worker came over and she tried to talk us off the ledge too. Put things in perspective. Which was nice of her. But she also gets to see the big picture and so its easier for her to put all the pieces together and feel better about it.  In any event, our request for communication and a plan will be well documented.

So best case scenario the kids will return home right after their break,  Which makes this a little easier to deal with. Which makes me feel bother better and stronger. More equipped.

But man, it still hurts like hell.

1 comment:

  1. You've been really supportive over at my blog lately. Thanks!! You're awesome!

    And I've got NO words on your situation. Every post of yours makes me want to scream right along with you.

    I think...and I'm just assuming here...we'd BOTH be in a much better place with reunification (or kinship in our case) if we thought the kids were going to be safe in the placement. But all the wonky and all the uncertainty makes it seem so impossible!

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