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Thursday, February 21, 2013

Consequences

Finally! Finally, a consequence to thumbing her nose at the rules. Overnight visits got pulled this week an next. And the schedule didn't revert back to what it was before them - Friday night visits were cancelled altogether. And she had to tell them that she was losing time with them because she broke the rules.

This week and next just Wednesday and Saturday visits with pop-in supervision. And then I'm not sure. I was told she's out of chances. We'll see what the judge has to say. The judge was very clear- no visitors, transparency in what's happening at the visits.

Of course this meant a relieved Gabby, a sad LM and a scared JB. All of them seem scared about their visit and the dynamic between the kids has shifted again. None of them are getting along.

And gosh darn it of she didn't tell them about the April move date! So of course now we have to go back and make the kids understand the reasons why that is now out of the question.

Strangely, I'm feeling steady. I thought I would feel upset about this but I really don't feel much. I'm trying not to get my hopes up but also feel validated in my thoughts that she is way overwhelmed. I just pray that the state stops the madness here. 2 years 9 months in foster care is too long.

3 comments:

  1. Wow, that is a long time in foster care

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  2. Wow, I was beginning to believe that rules were only for foster parents.

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  3. my daughters case was open for over 4 years before it ended in legal guardianship. The bios never messed up enough for a judge (Illinois)to terminate rights but the bios never did enough to get their lives back in order and meet all requirements of their service plan. One thing about foster care, it can change quickly. Even if the judge rules return home, that can totally change the next court date. It was all over in our case when we got guardianship, but I remember going into court every time and wondering if things would change.

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