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Thursday, June 7, 2012

Team Meeting #3

So here we are 3 months of "team meetings" and still discussing Moms ability to work with the girls' trauma therapist. LM told Mom at family therapy last night that she doesn't want to live with her because she doesn't trust her but that she trusts the trauma therapist and once again Mom brought up the fictional statement to the girls. This woman is not doing herself any favors. This just served to make the kids trust her less.

So now trauma therapist and Mom are goon to have a family session. Without the kids. And then a session with the girls.

I kid you not. I couldn't make this stuff up if I tried. Wait... It gets better.

Family therapists says to trauma therapist - is it ok if I tell the kids this is going to happen.

Where is the duct tape when you need it? Seriously someone has got to tape her mouth shut.

No you moron. You do not tell the kids. Did you not hear what everyone said about a need to keep certain information to the adults only and the kids on a need to know basis? Why on Earth would they need to know that possibly in 4 weeks that they are going to have a session with the trauma therapist? And what happens when Mom refuses? What are you going to tell the kids then?

A bunch of other really ridiculous stuff happened. Like the gem from Moms attorney implying that someone must have told the kids it was Moms fault trauma therapist was leaving the case. Umm no. 1) Mom told them this information without the trauma therapist even knowing her exit was being discussed 2) the kids see their Mom as all powerful - most victims view their abusers this way 3) they are painfully aware that their Mom does not like trauma therapist. It's not a hard leap for them to think this was Mom's doing. Can we give the almost 12 year old and 10 year old a little credit?

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