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Saturday, January 11, 2014

Exhausted

We are in the thick of the hardest part of being a foster parent. Dealing with the system. Make up visits, missed calls from Mom, finding therapists and doctors.

I actually forgot we had a rescheduled appointment tonight until one of the kids reminded me. (I'm not back in the habit of carting my MomAgenda everywhere yet.) and while talking to the therapist who came to our home tonight the kids let the dog out of his crate and he helped himself to my hamburger on the table.

I'm daunted by the task at hand today. I know how much good we can do. I know how much the kids need us to do this good. I just want to call a time out.

I hopped over to an online retail store tonight to look for inspiration. A search of books and foster care, left me even more depressed about how much overhaul the system needs. It should be this hard to get what the kids need, what our family needs. I actually had to point the transportation company contracted by the state to the state safety belt laws today. 

Banging my head against the wall.


2 comments:

  1. Banging my head with you.

    The System is sooooooo difficult to deal with. I honestly can't believe I'm voluntarily doing it again.

    God bless you and your adventure!

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  2. The carseat/seat belt issue is one of my biggest pet peeves on visitation days. The behaviors after visits are bad enough, but to have to worry about vehicle safety too? Give me a break. I'm sure the state can take a minute to make sure their staff are properly trained in transporting, especially when that's their main JOB.

    Maybe you could be the one to write a book on foster care. It's disheartening how little there is out there. And part of the problem is that every state is so different - even each county is incredibly different in our state.

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