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Saturday, January 11, 2014

I Believe

I firmly believe in car dancing. I may drive a minivan but my sound system rocks and you are likely to find us belting out tunes and wiggling in out seats. If we make you chuckle at a stop light, even better.

I believe it's perfectly acceptable to have cereal for dinner. It is also acceptable to force your kids to listen to the music you did in high school. One day they will have fond memories of you singing to Getting Jiggy With It. 

I believe in working hard and playing hard. I work my tail off so that at the end of the year people write things like:

Foster Mom R is dedicated. She is organized and efficient. Even on the craziest days she has a cheerful and helpful attitude.

This also means that if we have a chance to go watch a hockey game as a family I will chose that over staying home to take down Christmas decorations. I will care less about putting away laundry (ok I really don't  care about perfectly stored laundry. I want clean laundry but if its in a basket and its not wrinkled it doesn't matter to me that it didn't come out of a drawer. But since its a life skill I have to at least appear to care.) and more about an opportunity to spend quality time with my Mom. It means I believe letting kids miss four days of 1st grade isn't a game changer if they are going on a lifetime of memories filled trip to Disney World.

I believe that parents should be held accountable. That means if you are supposed to call by 7:00 PM to confirm a visit with your children, your visit should be cancelled* if you call at 7:20 PM. I don't care if your phone fell in a toilet. (*This is not standard. This is a requirement because of inconsistency and missed visits.)

I believe foster parenting is not for everyone. I also believe that is ok and should not be judged.

I believe in the golden rule.

I believe in Angels.

I believe everyone should have a guilty pleasure. Mine is watching ABC Family dramas. 

I believe it takes a village.

I believe you are part of my village and I am honored you stopped by and thank you for your prayers and support.

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