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Tuesday, March 19, 2013

Thank You

Thank you to everyone for the support and affirmations. They mean a great deal to me. We found out tonight, via email, that the kids are going to their Mom's for Spring break. They leave this Friday and won't come back for 10 days. They were fairly upset.

We've returned to the original plan but nothing has been said about moving before the end of school. I don't see the point of them coming back and only spending the week with us if they were able to go 10 days with their Mom. Seems like more heartache.

Maybe someone will update us via email.

2 comments:

  1. I know it makes no sense to u and speaking from a foster mom point of view its killer. U must be thinking if they live 10 days and the court thinks their safe for 10 days whats the point in them coming back at all. Speaking from someone experienced in with children needing stability. The kids will go with bio mom feeling scared insecure worried. They will have the assurance that you will be there ready and willing with open arms to welcome them. Instead of seeing an uncertain future with no end. They see security trust and love at the end of the 10 day long tunnel. Also its a test of mom. Her true colors will shine through. If she tries to behave at first knowing what the punishment is for being herself because of loosing ground the first time she will not be able to keep up the act for 10 days. I know it doesn't seem like it and we could come up with a million different ways to make the system better but there is a method to there madness.

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  2. Omg. 10 days.

    I am praying for you. And for them.

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