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Saturday, March 9, 2013

Keep Your Arms Inside the Ride

The stupidity and lack of sense about what is more harmful to the kids reached an all time high this week. Ok not AS stupid as wanting overnight visits to start the day before Christmas Eve but just about.

We were told we could not take the kids out of town because it would show we have more money than their Mom. Seriously. The solution? An unknown respite or reinstate overnight visits for the 2 nights we had planned to be gone.

Did I mention that the oldest had been clinging to me like a toddler at day care for the first time as of late?

Over my dead body will either of those situations happen. Oh and we are to decide Thursday afternoon at the family meeting.

I notified the GAL and State about my concerns about lack of judgement happening. They were not aware overnights had stopped.

Lord knows who I'll piss off this time but I'm done watching no one are about the safety and well being of these kids.

3 comments:

  1. Just when I thought The System couldn't get any more f'd up.

    My blood is boiling over this. I'll try to pray. But it'll probably sound a whole lot more like me throwing a temper tantrum screaming, "why?!!!!!" to God at the top of my lungs.

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  2. What??? Who told you that? My understanding is that is in the state of Illinois you only need to get permission to take the kids out of state ... and it takes quite a while to do that ... lots of paperwork.

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  3. Technically this out of town was out of state. However, the activity we were going to do which showed the financial differences could be done in state without permission. Making the argument invalid. The paperwork is a simple permission slip and given they had 2 weeks to get it done should not have been a big deal especially since we've been to the exact same place 4 times previously. Harder to accomplish would be to find a respite for the weekend with less than a weeks notice for 4 older kids with a sexual abuse history.

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