That was the gist of the email I got from Simon's teacher today. Can he use your last name? He wants to change his name tag on his desk to read his adoptive name. He told his teacher he wants it to say "new last name".
I love that my kid has grown so much that he can articulate to others his feelings about what is important to him. 2 years ago he couldn't tell me what he wanted to eat for fear he would offend me or it would be something no one else wanted to eat. He acquiesced to everyone. And don't get me started about the way his sisters pushed him around. (This is only slightly improved. He's still incredibly patient with his sisters- way more than me.)
So for him to ask to have the name he feels is his- is HUGE.
My response was - if he feels this way, we should listen to him. Change it in the yearbook too.
He has claimed our family as his own. He is demanding to be included in it. Court delays be damned. Legalities don't matter to him. In his heart he belongs with us.
His new name IS his name. I want to ask all the people who told us we didn't have the right to give him a new name- what they make of this?
He wants the name we have him. The one that honors, past, present, future. The one that cements his place in our family.