Willow met with the oldest girls and told them the visits with the former foster family would not be happening. The kids were sad and angry. Sarah cried and cried. Then she decided to battle us over 1/4 cup of spinach at dinner. She cried her eyes out for over 30 minutes. We stayed calm. We explained her choices. Eventually, she realized we weren't going to cave and she ate her spinach.
The tantrum had nothing to do with dinner. She was feeling the loss of people she loves. Add to that 2 weeks of no visit with Mom and another missed phone call and you can see why she had to let it all out. We just went about our meal. The other kids finished their spinach and got dessert. She controlled the environment for a good while and then realize no one was giving her the attention she was seeking. Even when she escalated to blood curdling screams. (I just calmly said. Do that again and you will be writing 100 sentences.) we all sat at the table with her and did our best to ignore the crying.
Willow told us that neither parent is making satisfactory progress on their case plan. If things stay as they are, she believes that they may have enough documentation to start termination proceedings in the summer. We were shocked. That's still a ways away. They were able to move visits with Sheila to a week night so that will make my life a little easier. The permanency hearing in March should be interesting.
Wowzers seems like you need few classes in RAD And attachment... how to parent children from hard places that come with trauma... writing sentences???? WTH is that going to do to help a child in grieving mode? ABSOLUTELY NOTHING! Hope u learn a better method before you you hurt these kids more. So sad......
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