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Wednesday, May 29, 2013

My Village

Hubby suggested taking the kids and Bio Mom with us. (She needs a Blog Nickname- I'm open to suggestions.) I rejected it at first and then Gabby went with my Mom and Bio Mom allowed so I thought, well maybe it would be good.

She has reached out. She really does want help. I really want to give it to her but since its more along the lines of parent coaching we need to be in the parenting moment for it to happen. 

This could be a terrible disaster. But it also could be the most helpful 2 days for my kids' family. And we did set out to help the entire family.

Even my Mom is looking forward to this. She's making her famous spaghetti and meatballs. My aunt practically cried when I told her. Relieved, that she does get to see the kids again. My brother ever the protector- worried that we would somehow get hurt but was all for spending the weekend with this extended family.

I never thought we would get here. I never thought I would get here. In fact, nothing scares me about this weekend. I'm so excited. The guilt about hurting my family with such a loss is fading. 

Maybe I'm naive. I certainly see where pitfalls could be. But I'm choosing to stay positive and remain a support. To pass on the tools I've learned to a person who doesn't have the skills to get them on her own. After all, she chose to share her kids with me when she didn't have to.


4 comments:

  1. so happy for you! great job and stay strong!

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  2. So rewarding. There are hard moments, but can attest to the rewards in seeing the mom grow and learn and rebuild her family

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  3. This. Is. Awesome.

    I am SO excited for you, and everyone going on this trip. I agree with you, I think that while the outcomes are endless, it will inevitably be GOOD!!

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