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Saturday, April 13, 2013

Moving On

We moved the kids things today. We still have a ton of stuff but got most of the clothes they have been wearing, the majority of their toys and took it to their Mom's apartment.

It was good to see them. They seemed happy and I didn't feel sad at all. MM was a little confused because he asked if we were taking him home. I explained again that this was now his home. I'm still not sure he fully understands.

The kids' rooms were very cluttered and really messy. So instead of dumping their stuff we stayed and helped organize. Mom seemed to appreciate it and I think it showed we were willing to help. To thank is she ordered tacos from the Aunt next door and fed us lunch.

When we left we offered to help if she needed us. So she actually asked us to take a payment to the phone store. I started to say no but then I softened. I know what it's like to have to run errands with 4 kids and she isn't supposed to be driving them so we said yes. It showed I was really willing to help and that she trusted me enough to give me the money.

Maybe this can work out. My prayer tonight is that she will establish more authority with the kids because they still seemed to be walking all over her- which made me kind of mad. I raised them better than that.

3 comments:

  1. Doing great momma. I know what its like to want nothing more than to say no and run away. I also know what its like to come to know someone very well I otherwise would never associate with because that's what's best for the kids. Sounds like she really is open to allowing you to be a part of there lives. :)

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  2. I'm still praying. Hang in there!

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