tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4691772200483536054.post8421468797446275404..comments2023-06-15T09:58:45.763-05:00Comments on Love's A State of Mind: Damn Disney DecalsFoster Mom - Rhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10730691773432322264noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4691772200483536054.post-55471178934607147482016-06-07T12:06:21.948-05:002016-06-07T12:06:21.948-05:00I understand the pain and inner turmoil in questio...I understand the pain and inner turmoil in questions that have no acceptable answer. My foster daughter is 5 and has lived with me for nearly 2 years. Her younger brother will be 2 in a few weeks and has lived with me since he is 3 days old. They have 7 older siblings, only one who has been in foster care on a similar journey. My little one loves her older sister (she is 8) and is constantly asking to be with her. A few months ago it was decided by CYS and the courts that this sister would be living with her maternal grandmother. The grandmother is content with the little ones staying with me and so she only asked for custody of the older sister because she was being bounced from foster home to foster home. Unfortunately, the older sister let it slip during a visit she was going to be transitioning to grandma's care and told me daughter she would be going along as well. Sadly, that isn't the case. And so my daughter struggles with accepting her sister will live with their grandmother and she will not. I know the reasons behind this, but I also know none of them are satisfactory answers for a hurt little 5 year old. I try my best to be matter-of-fact about it and I also encourage visits as much as possible. It doesn't make it any easier! I wish I had some words of wisdom for you, but best I can say is to keep doing the best you can do with what information you have on hand. Empty Arms, Broken Hearthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11158910835440188959noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4691772200483536054.post-71533870651508418762016-06-06T14:17:53.843-05:002016-06-06T14:17:53.843-05:00DECAL IT UP!! This is your family now and let the ...DECAL IT UP!! This is your family now and let the decals reflect that. then...if she transitions back to mom/dad keep them there. She'll always be part of your family even if she doesn't live with you. !!! Mrs. Hallhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15360433416733092249noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4691772200483536054.post-31261771696847232942016-06-04T01:26:54.021-05:002016-06-04T01:26:54.021-05:00I had decals too,dog and a cat but hesitated on ge...I had decals too,dog and a cat but hesitated on getting the kids, because I didn't want to offend mommy either. So. In a drawer they sat. Mommy added a baby, the kids will never live together. <br />This whole decal family thing just kept getting stickier. <br />Finally. I decided. So as not to offend mommy I did not do parents, just the kids that live in our house. Dog decal is MIA, but sure it will turn up, then I will add it. <br />It shouldn't be this hard.Eileenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01713517263930814808noreply@blogger.com